Dami Around The Web - 4

Hello! Welcome again to various things I’ve found around the web recently. I’ve recently gotten more organised in curating and collecting my links and since I had them in one place already, it would have been mean not to share.

Insecure

First Up is Insecure content! Currently airing is the 5th and final season and Issa and the cast have been on a mega press run. There are so many videos and interviews, it was hard to narrow it down to just these two but I think they both do a good job of capturing the essence of her work as the show’s creators and both focus on the show.

PENNY: Issa said in the writers’ room at one point: “When you’re white, racism is a period. Like, ‘This is wrong, this needs to stop, period.’ But when you’re Black, it’s a comma.” It’s like, this racist thing happened to me, but I still have to go pay bills, still have to drive and go home and see my kids. Yes, this thing happened, but how are you going to deal with it?

Nytimes

Vanity Fair

Why DAO?

You may have heard or seen DAO in passing and wondered what the hell it means. This is a solid and clear explanation!

Big Friendship

Everyone that knows me knows how obsessed I am with talking and reading and everything about friendship. This article by two best friends explains how they prioritised fixing their relationship when stuff went sideways. I read it with longing and wished that in certain lost friendships, I had the opportunity to do the same.

Your Job is Not Your Identity

I think this is one that many people struggle with, including me, so, relatable content.

The Life of Muri

Fuad is a gifted writer who has a way of showing the special in the most mundane things. This essay is a great example.

Black women who have raised over $1,000,000 in 2021

Sometimes you just need an inspirational boost! I hope this is it for you.

Dami Around The Web- Week 3

Hello and welcome to another week of me sharing links I came across this week. This week is going to be brief and to the point. As always, headings are hyperlinked. Don’t forget to comment and share.

Bias in Healthcare

Every year or so, there is a headline and a few stories about how racism affects childbirth and chances mortality stats in pregnant women and their babies. What we don’t see as often, is how bias affects every facet of healthcare. This first person account of the effect of medical bias was so infuriating, I don’t know how much work needs to be done to change the system.

Cute Friendship Stories

Female friendships can be so wonderful. I enjoyed these examples of great friendship.

Even more evidence of men being biased against women

Girl boss theory says that if women just acted more like men at work, they would get the same benefits. This article gives a little insight into why that idea is false- and kind of ridiculous.

Evidence of the whole world being biased against female leaders

When women are in positions of power, we hold them to a universally higher standard than men and I don’t like that.

Who is the lead of Judas and the black Messiah?

Very interesting look at award politics. Also, Kate Winslet tried to be the supporting character in “The Reader”??? Come on! It makes me look at awards with a new eye.

Even good partners can be bad

I enjoyed this because someone can transform your life positively and also do something negative. People aren’t just good or bad. This is a perfect example.

A mother that regrets being a mother

This kind of illustrated the thoughtless approach a lot of people take to becoming parents. Society just demands that kids be the next step for every couple without considering what the right choice is for people on an individual level. I hope that we start to examine our choice to be parents, and not just approach it as the next step in life.

Dami Around The Web- Week 2

Can I just say spending all my time online feels better now that I have highlights to share! Without a long ramble intro, let’s get straight to it. All the headings are hyperlinked!

The True story behind I care a lot

Last week, I shared the movie, I care a lot, and a few days after I watched it, I read this 2017 New Yorker article about the real and dangerous world of legal guardianship in America.

Spotify in Nigeria

Last week, I wrote about Tidal being in Nigeria- this week, I’m here to tell you Spotify has joined the party and is now in Nigeria. The premium monthly plans are N900 a month, but there’s also a free tier (with ads) and you can sign up online. As of now, it looks like only some bank cards work- Access bank being one of them. As I don’t have an Access bank account, I take it as a sign that I only need the free version to listen to podcasts that are exclusive to Spotify.

Vanity Fair Jay-Z interview

I like reading profiles. The random details, the length of them. I think done well, they are one of the best kinds of non fiction you can read. This week

On Kim Kardashian’s First Pregnancy

This is an article on Kim’s bravery in facing the constant nasty media attention she got when she was pregnant with North. On reflection, this is an example of how deep fatphobia is because all the negative attention boiled down to, “wow she got fat and she’s showing up in the world”. Forget that the pregnancy was dangerous, forget that so much of it was unexpected, forget that it was her first child- the media, and sometimes comments from family and even her internalised voice cared most about the weight gain. It’s really sad.

Social Media trends from January 2021

This was sort of interesting. We are always trying to hack and understand social media and figure out how to maintain attention. I think we kind of do that in real life as well.

8 Nigerian men on why they regret getting married

Another week, another Zikoko post. I have so many thoughts on this, but at the same time, I have almost no thoughts. I found it interesting how many men were resentful of spending money on their kids and I assume, their wife. I think the pressure of financial expectations on men should be a massive reason men get passionate about dismantling the patriarchy but they seem to see that money nugget in complete isolation. I will say this though- if you HATE your wife, do you both a favour and separate from her. It sounds extremely scary for someone to have such strong negative feelings for someone they share a house and bed with and not do anything about it. It sounds like a dangerous situation to me, truthfully.

That’s all for this week!